Thursday, February 25, 2016
I read a posting today that in a nutshell says we do not have any control over who we love, the statement being “you just fall in love and you get people who are wrong for you.” Why would I give someone else that much power over me, my life and my feelings? Really being in love requires time and evidence of actions that demonstrate actions of love. Even though it sounds cliché, love is a verb.
First Corinthians 13:4-7 (English Standard) says: Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful. It does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things. The difficulty is how we interrupt its meaning. Love is all these things when used with integrity. The difficulty comes when the message is taken out of context and used as a attempt to convince another if they “really love me” they would adhere to all within this passage and not question my actions or words. When used in this manner the passage becomes abusive in nature, attempting to shame someone into submission to another’s will.
Never let anyone or any momentary feeling about another person convince you that there is no choice as to whom you choose to love and commit to. I too have fallen more than once into the path of “I can’t help myself; I just love him so much.” What became true for me was I was in love with the idea of being in love and fulfilling the lesson I had been taught, without a partner I was not a complete person. OMG…. You mean I am a complete person and I can be that all on my own!