In many of the women’s sessions I facilitate we often speak of the fairy tales we remember from our childhood and how many ended with “happily ever after”. Additionally we discuss how we have all looked for the fairy tale and came up disappointed when our “Prince Charming” was really the “Duke of Earl”. Tonight a friend and I attended the newly released Cinderella movie and were surrounded by dozens of “Cinderella’s” some in jeans and tennis shoes and some with small tiaras, wands in hand, bejeweled purses, blue dresses and yes “glass” slippers. I watched as they took their seats to be swept away into the Disney magic.
At this point you might be asking yourself why did this sixty-six year old women go to a children’s movie without a child in tow. The short answer is I had to see if it was the same as I remembered the story to be and was it still a happily ever after ending. Well, yes and no. While the story still follows the original story line, there was a different under lying message of the importance of being you.
Cinderella’s mother instilled in her (before her untimely death) the importance of being one’s self, being courageous and kind to others no matter how they might treat you. Then ending was a little different from the animated version I saw years ago. The prince still had to seek out his princess, only when he found her before she would even try on the slipper she said he would have to accept her as she was. Not a princess, because she wasn't but as a person and the importance of having courage and being kind. Therefore just as our beauty takes the hand of her new love she looks over her shoulder and says to her step mother, “I forgive you”. Let us never forget to see the magic in the world, especially when it feels like the world may be falling down all around us. And may we all find the courage to be ourselves no matter how others may see us, or try to change us and the ability to be kind when doing so isn't the easy choice.